Counselling for Men
Support that understands the pressures you carry.
Constant thoughts and worries?
Racing thoughts. Tight chest. Broken sleep. A constant sense of pressure that never really switches off.
You’ve been holding things together for a long time - at work, at home, around people who rely on you. On the outside, you’re functioning; on the inside the pressure never really switches off.
I offer men’s counselling and online therapy for men across Leeds and the UK, using a direct, grounded approach that helps you make sense of what’s going on and feel more in control again.
Therapy helps you to:
Feel grounded and and in control again
Reduce constant worry and racing thoughts
Understand what’s driving your panic
You’ve spent years staying in control - keeping things steady, doing what’s expected, pushing through even when you’re stretched thin. You’re the one people rely on.
Maybe you’re not sleeping. Maybe you’re constantly thinking, tense, or running on empty - and you’re wondering whether you even belong in therapy.
Your do. And you don’t have to keep carrying this alone.
Is Men’s Counselling right for you?
You don’t need to be in crisis to start counselling. If you’re feeling under pressure, or simply tired of keeping your shit together, counselling can be a useful place to begin.
You don’t lack emotions, and you’re not “bad at talking.” If anything, you’ve probably learned — consciously or not — that expressing vulnerability hasn’t always felt welcome or useful.
Within the first session — sometimes within the first 10 or 15 minutes — men who believe they “can’t talk” often find themselves describing pressures at work, frustrations at home, or experiences they’ve never put into words before. Talking for 50 minutes can feel unexpectedly relieving.
By the end of the session, I might reflect back:
“You’ve just spoken openly for nearly an hour. You’ve explained what’s weighing on you, what you’re struggling with, and what you need. That doesn’t sound like someone who can’t talk.”
“I’m just not good about talking about my feelings.”
A common belief many men arrive with is that they’re “not in touch with their emotions” or that they don’t know how they feel. Often, that belief has been reinforced by partners, past experiences, or years of being told to “just get on with it.”
In men’s counselling, you’re offered:
a space without pressure to perform or impress
no expectation to fix everything immediately
no judgement about how you should feel
time to make sense of thoughts, emotions, and patterns at your own pace
When you feel genuinely heard, things often begin to shift. Anxiety becomes easier to understand, stress feels less overwhelming, and patterns in relationships start to make more sense. That can lead to clearer boundaries, healthier communication, and a stronger sense of self — not by becoming someone else, but by reconnecting with who you already are.
Therapy for Men – FAQs
1. Do I need to be in crisis to start Men’s Counselling?
No. Many men come to counselling because something feels off rather than because everything has fallen apart. You might be functioning well on the outside but feelings stressed, disconnected, stuck, or constantly under pressure. Counselling can help you understand what’s going on before things reach crisis point.
2. What if I’m not good at talking about my feelings?
That’s one of the most common concerns men raise - but it’s rarely a problem. You don’t need the right words or emotional language to start. It’s not about saying things “properly;” it’s about having a space to get things off your chest without being judged.
3. How is men’s counselling different from general therapy?
When I work with men, I recognise the specific pressures you carry - expectations around control, responsibility, work, relationships and emotional restraint. The focus isn’t on changing who you are, but on the understanding of how these pressures affect you. We find ways to respond that feel healthier and more sustainable.
4. What kind of issues to men bring to counselling?
Men come to counselling for a wide range of reasons, including stress or burnout, anxiety, low mood, relationship difficulties, anger, emotional shutdown, or questions around identity and self-worth. You don’t need a single “big issue” — often it’s about making sense of patterns that keep repeating or feelings that won’t go away.
